The de Young w/a 12-Year-Old

A recent walk through the de Young Museum in San Francisco with my daughter, Grace, provided me with more comedic material. Her typical preteen crankiness and lack of interest in all that the museum had to offer was quite amusing…

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I love this girl.



  1. Kara  April 10, 2013

    I cannot express enough how much freedom this series of posts is giving me, and therefore my sweet and amazing 11 year old! Thank you thank you thank you.

    • camilla  April 10, 2013

      So glad to hear it, Kara! xoxo, C

  2. catie  April 10, 2013

    i love this!
    i would love to see a guest post of the museum through grace’s lens : )
    even a guest post of her idea of a perfect vacation, perhaps sharply contrasted to one that involves art museums.

    • camilla  April 10, 2013

      Yes, Catie! Such a great idea! xoxo, C

  3. jo  April 10, 2013

    genius! great pictures! great images!

  4. Aunt Jenny  April 11, 2013

    These are priceless – I especially like the one of Grace glaring at the statue!

  5. Sophie  April 11, 2013

    I really love this series of pictures ! My daughter and I have a good time looking at them. They are funny but so artistic as well (as the previous). Thank you !

  6. Juliette  April 11, 2013

    J’adorrrre !

  7. Kiran  April 12, 2013

    I can remember when I was 12 being “dragged” by my parents to art museums all over Paris. We have pictures of me with a similar scowl (and a similar baseball jacket, though mine was Benneton and so very 80s). Seeing all of your pictures brings the memories right back. Now, of course, I would be delighted if someone forced me to look at art in Paris. Ha!

  8. Rebeka  April 26, 2013

    Hahahaha my family has some very similar pictures of me as a tween on some family outings I did NOT want to be on. The good news, though, is that I grew out of it, so there’s hope for her too 🙂

  9. Nadya  April 26, 2013

    I love this! When I took my kids to the Barnes Foundation last winter, they were so whiny I resorted to asking them to count the boobs (in paintings) in each room.

  10. Lauren  April 26, 2013

    These are just fantastic! You’ve captured 12 in such a wonderful way!

  11. Diane  April 26, 2013

    I cannot stop laughing at this post. I am now a grandmother and sooooo glad those teen pubey years are in the past for my now grown daughter with children of her own. LOL

  12. Neo  April 26, 2013

    I remember being a bratty pre-teen. Oh geez. This will be my little girl in 11 years.

  13. Jenny  April 26, 2013

    I jumped over here from A Cup of Jo. What a great series of pictures! I’m sure she will look back on these and laugh. I vividly remember a family vacation to Vegas and we took advantage of the close proximity to the Grand Canyon and rented a car to go see it. My Dad pulled over at a scenic lookout and we all piled out of the car. My grouchy sister got to the edge and said with boredom, “Is this it?” We still laugh about it 20 years later!

  14. annie g  April 27, 2013

    Brilliant. Especially where she is just turned to the wall. I have similar photos of my son in Prague, refusing
    to be interested or impressed. I plan to use them on his wedding invitations, should the day arrive.

  15. r_kapadia  April 27, 2013

    Hey, for added fun enter in blurb form what you think she is thinking!

    And take heart: the 13-year old child that told me he would “rather have done homework” on the ride home from the museum a few years ago now goes on dates with his girlfriend to museums and galleries in the city.

  16. Stephanie  April 27, 2013

    I hope to be a mom like this! So funny.

  17. KTN  April 27, 2013

    I love this! The youngest of my four turned 16 last week, so I truly appreciate what you have documented here. I’m amazed that Grace let you take her photo–mine would probably still not be speaking to me had I tried that!

  18. Pamela  April 28, 2013

    Beautiful photos. I volunteer at The Cantor, collect art and force my kids to go to galleries and museums all of the time. I am familiar with some of those expressions. No matter how annoyed my kids are, we still go.

  19. Camille  April 28, 2013

    I actually drove my 12 year old son from Capitola to the DeYoung for the Jean Paul Gaultier exhibit! He liked the digital mannequins, but found the corsets, etc… Rather odd:) to his credit, he endured it and The next trip to the Peninsula was to watch Stanford football. My 9 year old son is beyond even considering such an outing. He feigns extreme car sickness for such excursions. Somehow he gets to the Academy of Science with his class and the Giants games with friends…perhaps when he is 10:)

  20. Teresa  April 28, 2013

    When my son was a similar age, I found a way to view museum galleries together by doing a little scavenger hunt for him. I’d have him wait at the enterance of each new section while I quickly scanned the displays for some interesting fact or item. It was then his job to find the exact match to the word or description I gave him. He would hurry around to find it while I casually viewed the gallery. When he found the match, we’d talk about it and either se more in that section or move on, based on his interest. I wouldn’t always get the time I wanted, but we worked together in a good way to see many museums in San Francisco!

  21. Kira  April 28, 2013

    that is hillarious!!

  22. Julie G.  April 28, 2013

    Has she seen your post? She must be mortified! I can feel the eyes rolling and hear the groaning. It does get better, but more than likely you have a few rough years ahead.

  23. Beth  April 28, 2013

    oh how I love this…thank you ! I could have taken the exact images, especially her collapsed on the bench!
    thanks for the emotional support & off to the museum we go.

  24. Suzanne  April 28, 2013

    I can offer you hope…it does get better with a teenage daughter. We’re not quite there yet, but I can see the horizon…wait for it…wait for it…

  25. Elizabeth Allemann  April 28, 2013

    Wow! Reminds me how much puberty is like menopause. If somebody tried to make me do something I didn’t want to do, or to keep doing it once I was done, these photos would be mild, I’m tellin Ya. Maybe she could take you somewhere she loves and you do not and she could take pictures of you.

  26. lisa  April 29, 2013

    I’ve got a series just like this -my favorite is my 13 year old son standing under Christopher Wool’s “Bad Dog.” I hope your daughter got a laugh.

  27. Raquel  April 29, 2013

    I’m in the thick of this with my 13 yr old and having a hard time finding the humor in it. So thanks for this. I feel less alone and more prone to be patient about the attitude–even if just for today. I hate this phase of pre-teen misery.

  28. Liz  April 29, 2013

    Thank you for this! I took my artist mother and my then 12-year-old son through the Legion of Honor several years ago. I remember the frustration I felt (I’m with you, Raquel!) of trying to get him to lift his head and stop his crying as we walked through the Rodin sculptures … he now seems to have recuperated.

  29. Nicola  April 30, 2013

    I grew up with a world class art museum and took it for granted (believe it or not it was the Toledo Museum of Art). I saw quite a few others then, too. I never imagined having your daughter’s reaction. I guess I was abnormal in many ways. Then again, my very normal son wasn’t exactly bored in museums though he wasn’t exactly thrilled with the visits like I was. I never knew how easy I had it. I gotta say your daughter looks quite inspired (lol). These photos are a riot!

  30. Phoebe  May 8, 2013

    Love this! I remember being this way. Except, instead of a museum, place me in a supermarket. Thank goodness my mother isn’t disposed to carrying a camera (not that there ever were digital cameras back then.)

  31. Megan  May 13, 2013

    To be a bit fair, I was 24 when I went to the de Young with my dad, and I probably looked like that toward the end. That museum is absurdly large.

  32. Jane Marie Cleveland  May 13, 2013

    ‘found link to this post via Kelly at the FAMSF stores. She assured us (museum staff) that we would find it amusing, and I was not disappointed.